Like the title. What should such people treat? Is it okay to pretend, or is it necessary to do some action?
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I am not sure if those who say bad things about others in front of me also say bad things in front of others, but I have indeed met such people.
The was about the sixth grade of elementary school at that time. There was a girl that everyone didn't like very much, and suddenly it integrated into the circle of friends. At first, everyone felt nothing. Later, after everyone was familiar, she often asked us to play alone, and from time to time, some friends were not good. At that time After too much, I found that the word can be described as good!
The people who are not perfect, no matter how good friends, there are some weird temper that they don't like, but everyone will not speak out, but ... that girl, she often grasps me I have not said, although I did not say, but ... I agree with what she said, because the facts are the same. Over time, I also started to talk to her unhappy things, and she would also tell me that some friends said behind my little secrets.
The period of time I found that the distance between me and my friends was getting farther and farther. I was grateful to her because if she did not help me inquire about those bad things behind me, I might always be forever Never know that they don't like me so much. Until ... I accidentally heard their conversation when I went to the toilet.
The talker is the same as when they talk, and she talked about me in front of them as usual, and ... I can obviously feel that her opinion is the greatest, and it seems that there are no other crowds of other squeezing others. people! At that time, a group of people who had a good relationship were made by her. It wasn't until she found that we did not play with her one day before she realized that her provocation failed!
I never understand why she should do this, is it just to improve the status in our hearts and let us be more willing to play with her? Or is it like to provoke away? I still don't understand so far. No one seems to ask her. Maybe I don't want to say more with her after being deceived, or because I don't care about her thoughts at all!
It Xiao Sheng was transferred to school at the beginning of Xiao Sheng. As for the transfer, few people have been asked. Everyone didn't like her, and even when she mentioned her at the party, everyone was disdainful, maybe because she knew too many small secrets of others, or it may be that what she did was a bit missing. Essence Since then, I have never heard the news of her again ...
maybe the shadow at that time was too deep. After that, I never said bad things about others. When I couldn't help it, I just complained with my girlfriend's encounter, and I wouldn't comment naked.
Yes, you never know what you are in the mouth of others.
x grew up wearing the same pants and me. What I want to say today is not Miss X, but Miss X and two colleagues. Miss X does not understand the rules of workplace survival, and tastes from the mouth, but it is considered to be careful, and it can be done. But sometimes she is often in the brain, and she often cannot distinguish between the authenticity of other people's population.
x said that Xiao Ni recently went close to her, and found that Xiao Ni was like a young lady, often for her to think about work. In the next few days, colleagues in Xiao Ni often complained about the bad colleagues in Miss X. They said that as a small leader, she was late every day, and she had to call the people underneath. But when I saw a colleague Q, I didn't have any disgusting, but smiled.
The arrangement of work requires reports and solutions. Q colleagues asked Miss X to do it well. Maybe the work is good, the leader will recognize it. It is a rare opportunity for an intern. This makes Miss X confident and more motivated. Seeing that Miss X came out of the office and smiled, she was in a hurry, but this silly child told Xiao Ni. The colleague of this little Ni talked to Q at night, saying that Miss X had a lot of things recently. Friends had a meal and family affairs, so there was no way to calm down to complete the plan. Besides, she usually had a rough and big leaves. The meeting is not good. Fortunately, the leader of Q still insisted on letting her complete. The newcomer always has the opportunity to exercise.
The next day, Xiao Ni was quite enthusiastic about X. I would like to try a new restaurant nearby. I was annoying recently. Miss X has a lot of work to do, so she didn't care about Xiao Ni during that time, but Xiao Ni was particularly close to other colleagues. Once in the bathroom, X had a stomach and called me, saying whether she could send her some medicine. She couldn't ask for leave. The plan was important and there was no time. Later, it was so unfortunate that Xiao Ni and other colleagues came in. The two chatted, "Hey, Xiao Ni, did you have always been good at X? Why didn't you eat together recently?" Xiao Ni said, "She, Busy, do you have to do a plan, how can I have time to take care of me, I tell you, do n’t you tell others. X told me that she usually buys a snack for Q, called coffee, and sometimes go out to go out. Do not forget to buy a small gift, so Q will say a chance to give her. Otherwise, why do you say that she is, the intern is more. "A colleague hurriedly echoed," It turns out, I will What is the situation? "
I later comforted her, not just saying a few words, it was always glowing. I also scolded her stupid. As soon as I had delicious food, I sent them to others. I found someone to play in the playground on the weekend. Zhang Tickets. Okay now, what is in the mouth of others, you are sincere to others, people may not be worthy of your goodness to her.
A friend of humanity sometimes requires a cost. Without this, you may continue to be friends with her. So what happened in the future is more serious than this, or lighter than this. It's hard to say. So this may not be a bad thing.
. As for the impact that has been caused, I think those who are soft to listen to the wind and the wind are rain. Why pay so much? You don't need to explain anything or do anything. You do what you usually do. Since you believe that the truth will be white, then you wait for that day quietly.
but if it was me, I think I would either find her to come out alone, eat a meal, and talk; Go to both sides to mediate. For example, a few months ago, a classmate and I had a deep misunderstanding because of some things. I was another person looking for. At that time, another party was also very angry, and at that time, I didn't want to ease the relationship at the time, but I felt that it would not work like this. Finally, I clarified the misunderstanding, and they were much easier to each other.
What do you say, if you think I am reasonable, you will listen to me: In the final analysis, you are actually a misunderstanding. First of all, you really have something wrong with this matter, and it is obvious. Even if you are not attentive, but think about it from her perspective, her feeling is what she said, she thinks you are intentional. If you start from this point, that is, she thinks you are interested, that is, she thinks she has seen the wrong person, and thinks you are such a person who provides the relationship between her and the boss to achieve her purpose. The same), then she was angry and unexpected, and wanted others to recognize your "face", so it became a "provocative" in your eyes.
It also mentioned in the question, saying true, you are not what she said. At the same time, it is very likely that she is not like you think. I have the fate to answer your questions here, even if a friend meets with Pingshui, I suggest that you can use some ways to clarify unnecessary misunderstandings, so many things are naturally clear. One thing you don't forget, even if you are not intentional or not, your approach is indeed inappropriate.
That is, she thinks you are intentional. At that time, another party was also very angry, and at that time, I didn't want to ease the relationship at the time. To tell the truth, you were not what she said. Then. One thing you don't forget, even if you are not intentional or not, your approach is indeed inappropriate. I have the fate to answer your question here, even if a friend meets the water, but I think it won't work like this, and it is obvious that those people who listen to the wind soft and listen to the wind is a friend of you.
How to say, if you think I say it is reasonable, you will listen to me.
But if it was me, I think I would either find her to come out alone, eat a meal, and talk about it; either find a friend who two of you, to make clear the original committee, and to mediate from this middleman. For example, a few months ago, a classmate and I had a deep misunderstanding because of some things. Without this, you may continue to be friends with her. So what happened in the future, that is, she thought she had seen the wrong person, and I was another person looking for. It's hard to say. So this may not be a bad thing.
As for the impact that has been caused, you really have something wrong with this matter. Why pay so much? You don't need to explain anything or do anything. You do what you usually do: In the final analysis, you are actually a misunderstanding. First of all, she thinks you are intentional. If you start from this point, sometimes it is necessary to cost. Since you believe that the truth will be white, then you wait for that day quietly. Her feeling is what she said, and finally the misunderstanding is clarified. It's much more likely. If you want others to recognize your "face", you have become a "provocative" in your eyes.
It also mentioned in the question. Even if you are not attentive, but think about it from her perspective, thinking that you are such a person who provokes the relationship between her and the boss to achieve her purpose, (as you think she now), then she is angry and unexpected in her heart. Is it more serious than this or lighter than this? She is not like you think. I suggest that you can use some ways to clarify unnecessary misunderstandings, so many things are naturally clear.
Saying bad things in front of us, then there is something wrong with him. Others say me.